During this time between the Jewish New Year and Yom Kippur, Jews ask forgiveness from those they feel they have wronged and forgive those they believe wronged them.
I thought about that this week when a friend complained that her wonderful 26-year-old grandsoi didn’t call to wish her a Happy Birthday. She said she wasn’t going to speak to him until he did.
I asked who she thought would suffer more, the happy, busy, hard-working young man – or his old widowed grandmother sitting alone in her apartment.
I suggested she send him an email saying, “Happy New Year, Love Grandmother.”
He probably forgot about her birthday, I added, and will be delighted to get that nice message. (I also think he’ll either send a reply or–even better–phone her!)
As my wise father once said, “Love flows from parent to child to child to child…” (And if we’re lucky, some flows back.)